What is your role in this world? Are you a mother, a wife, a sister, a daughter, a friend?
Are you a Christian?
Too often, “Christian” is the last role on our list when we define ourselves. Motherhood and wifely duties consume so much of our time and attention that those roles are most prominent to us. Lately, I have had these questions weighing on my heart: who am I? what is my purpose here? what/whom is my first priority?
It is tempting to think that my role as Mother is most important. After all, little Sprout requires my care to live. She needs me. But that relationship with her will be damaged if I neglect my role as Wife. So, maybe my first definition should be Wife. Nate needs my affection, attention, love, respect, and support.
But my relationship with him will suffer if I neglect my role as Christian. God does not need my fear, attention, time, effort, or love. He wants those from me for my benefit–when I give myself to Him, give my life to Him, I grow closer to Him. And being close to God is the best place to be.
Better is one day in your courts
than a thousand elsewhere;
I would rather be a doorkeeper in the house of my God
than dwell in the tents of the wicked
When I ruminate on the question, “Who am I?” my only answer ought to be “Christian.” My role as a child of God is the definition of my whole existence. That relationship is the base of every other relationship in my life. It is a factor in how I mother and how I serve my friends, family, spouse in Christian love. If you are honest, you will see that your relationship with Christ is also present in how you practice law or medicine, the tone in your phone calls and e-mails, the way you treat your clients or customers. It is the absolute foundation of you. Upon your relationship with Christ, you build rapport with your spouse, children, family, friends, co-workers, clients. If that tie with Christ is suffering, if you are not fully trusting in God’s grace, mercy, eternal love, salvation, forgiveness, then every other exchange will suffer in turn.
Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever.
Is there any other person in your life you can say that about? Someday, the Wife may find herself without her husband, the Mother with grown children leaving her nest, the Lawyer with a weak mind, the Artist with crippled hands, the Church Member with a grossly sinning pastor. Yet the Christian will always have her God, her Redeemer, her Rock, her Savior, her Hope.
Where can I go from your Spirit?
Where can I flee from your presence?
If I go up to the heavens, you are there;
if I make my bed in the depths, you are there.
If I rise on the wings of the dawn,
if I settle on the far side of the sea,
even there your hand will guide me,
your right hand will hold me fast.
I need not despair when I find myself alone in this world without a talent or skill or friend to my name because I am a Christian. In that relationship, there is pure, unmovable, everlasting joy.
Though you have not seen him, you love him;
and even though you do not see him now,
you believe in him and are filled with an inexpressible and glorious joy,
for you are receiving the end result of your faith,
the salvation of your souls.
1 Peter 1:8-9
How do you define yourself? Choose wisely. Perform your earthly duties (as Mother, Wife, Employee) with a heart of service, joy, and thanksgiving, but be first a child of God and make your relationship with Him your priority.