Stuff to Do

One of the top searches that brings people to my blog is “stuff to do with your husband.” I can envision many different scenarios. Perhaps this person is newly married and just looking for some fun ideas to bring her and her husband together. Maybe she is an older woman who has exhausted all her own ideas to win some of her husband’s time. Or maybe she is a combination of these women.

I don’t know who she is, but I wonder if she’s tried any of my ideas… and I wonder if any have worked to return (or introduce) some cohesion and love to her marriage.

I’ve posted a handful of ideas for things to do with your husband and am adding to the list. I like cooking with him, getting greasy under the hood, planning and executing a fun camping or canoe trip.

But I must say this: my favorite activity to do with my husband is to just be alone together. I adore those minutes after a long, tiring day when we lay in bed, nose to nose, laughing over a funny joke he heard or tearing up over a bruised heart. Sometimes the conversation turns into a 30-minute tickle fight and other times, we drift to sleep quickly, content just being near each other. His voice and presence comfort me and prepare me for a restful night.

I don’t know who you are, and I don’t know why you are searching for activities to do with your husband. I just pray that maybe I have helped you, whoever you are.

Camping

Thing to Do With Your Husband #6: Go Camping

Camping is another great way to spend time with your husband. Most men love providing for their wives and camping gives them that opportunity to bring you as much comfort as they can. Plus, as I’ve said before, sunshine is great for the body, soul, and spirit. After floating (and hauling a canoe through) the Little Missouri River, Nate and I camped at Daisy State Park on Lake Greeson.

Daisy State Park

We bonded over a game of Go Fish, hot dog and marshmallow cooking, and building a home away from home for the night. Our camp site was just off the water with some pretty views.

Part of our camp site.

We woke to the sound of birds chirping. Nate started up the campfire and we cooked bacon and eggs for breakfast.

Morning sun over our tent.

I fell in love with the many dogwoods blooming around our site.

Dogwood Blossoms

Dogwood Blossoms

Dogwood Blossom

Dogwood Blossom

We had loads of fun camping, and I’m already looking forward to next time.

Canoe Trip

Things to Do With Your Husband #5: Do an Outdoor ActivityOutdoor activities are a great way to create strong, happy memories. On Friday, we took a short (about 4.7 mile) canoe trip down the Little Missouri River beginning just downstream of Narrows Dam and ending right about the second submerged dam at the Muddy Fork Road bridge.

We had an absolute blast. A lot of the time we spent walking our canoe over slimy river rocks. There was some frustration as Nate came to terms with myvery limited canoe-steering skills. Tears flowed as I convinced him that I really was trying my best and asked for him to not be upset with me. And apologies were made as he stood in rushing water on slippery river rocks reaching into the canoe to give a hug and promise exercises in patience.

We were blessed with plenty of sunshine…

A Sunshine Blessing

… and hard work:

This was taken during an easy stretch of river!

We rejoiced at streams emptying into the river because it meant higher waters over the rocks. (Click on the picture for a better view–a pretty foot bridge was constructed there.)

A stream empties via mini-waterfall into the river.

At one calm moment during our trip, while we relaxed in slow waters, we witnessed a deer as she (I think it was a doe) stepped out into the water at the river bank for a cool drink. I didn’t get a picture because the phone was in a water-tight box, and I didn’t want to frighten her. The deer only stayed around for a minute or so–once she caught sight of our ensemble, she hurried off.

Overall, we had an incredible time. We’d been kicking around the idea of a canoe trip for probably a year or more and just never made the time to do it. I’m so glad we did this. Even as we stumbled over many, many rocks and even as I sit here with achy and sore muscles, I feel blessed and happy for the experience.

Maybe you and your husband can’t take or wouldn’t enjoy a canoe trip, but being outside in the sun is good for your body, soul, and spirit. I believe that our short ride down the rocky Little Missouri strengthened our budding marriage as we rejoiced in God’s handiwork and provision.

A Supper Bet

Things to Do With Your Husband #4: Make a Bet

A couple of weeks ago, Nate bought something online and had it shipped to the house. The delivery estimate was February 22nd – 27th. He bet me that it would come in on the 22nd… sounds ridiculous, doesn’t it? So I took the bet–if it was delivered any time on or after the 23rd, I’d win.

The stakes? Loser fixes the supper of the winner’s choice on the day the winner chooses.

It arrived on our doorstep promptly on…

… the 25th! Ha!

I chose meatloaf with creamed potatoes, corn, and peas. Yum! And the best part was that Nate made the meal all by himself! I did have to talk him through the meatloaf because I don’t have a recipe for it, but he did a wonderful job and everything was delicious.

I took a few photos, but none turned out very well, so sorry about that. You’ll just have to take my word for it!

Walks with a Beloved

Things to Do With Your Husband #3: Take a Walk

I think it is natural for humans to become restless when indoors for too long. You get silly or short-tempered. You get bored and eat too much, when the truth is your body just wants to move. Sunday, Nate suggested we take a walk together; a suggestion to which I readily consented. It was a nice day; cool, breezy, sun clouded over. We walked to a park about 1.1 miles away, and then took another, shorter route back, stopping at the grocery store (about another mile, so 2.1 miles total). It was a nice walk, although I wish I had worn shorts.

The Park

The Park Again
Say Cheese!

Nate doesn’t really like having his picture taken.

Grease Monkey

Things to Do With Your Husband #2: Get Greasy

OK, many women might scrunch their noses at the idea of spending Saturday afternoon under the hood, but if we want our husbands to shop or watch sappy movies with us, the least we could do is grease up, right?

Today, Nate and I spent four hours fixing our vehicle. It really shouldn’t have taken more than two, which of course, makes for a good story.

On our way back into town after seeing a few houses with the realtor, we stopped at one of the few auto parts stores in town. We picked up a few tools we needed and the parts–six spark plugs and a set of wires. No big deal. Later in the afternoon, we get out the tools, pop the hood, and get to work.

On this vehicle, the spark plugs are kind of tricky to get to. You have to first take out this big plastic box/hose combo (something that has to do with the air filter). Then, there are three spark plugs on the passenger side and three on the driver’s side. The ones on the passenger side are under the box/hose thingy. There is a set of three wires–one end connects to a plug cap thing-a-ma-bob on the passenger side and the other end has a plug that goes into the hole on the driver’s side after you screw the spark plug in.

That big box in the bottom right is for the air filter--it and the big hose connecting it to the engine had to be removed.

We opened the new spark plugs and noticed they looked a bit different–one gap instead of two. Neither of us know much about the difference, and we figure it won’t matter anyway. We spend two hours removing the old plugs and putting in the new. Then we put that big box/hose combo back on, put all the tools away (in the house), drop the hood and try to start it. No go. We pop the hood again, look around, and try to find maybe a hose we forgot to re-attach or something. That’s when Nate sees a little sticker on the engine that basically says not to use a single-prong spark plug.

Sigh.

We remove everything once again, take out the plugs, re-package them (thankfully, we still had the receipt!) and I wait in the drive-way while Nate runs back up to the auto parts store. We didn’t want to put the tools back in the house, so I babysat them (they didn’t run away, don’t worry).

He comes back and says the other kind of spark plug (the kind we need) is not in stock, so he ordered them and they won’t be in until Monday. Sigh. I need the vehicle to get to class Monday. Our neighbor stops by on his afternoon/evening walk and says Nate should try another auto parts store.

Good idea.

He calls to make sure they have them, and then I babysit the tools again while he runs up to store #1 to cancel the order and to store #2 to get the new, correct, plugs. He comes home and we put the new plugs in. We connect the wires, put the tools in the tool box, but before putting them in the house, try to start the vehicle.

No go.

SIGH!

We pop the hood and just stare at it–no idea what to do. I decide to call my dad because he’s worked on a lot of vehicles in his day. He answers and I say “We have a problem. We replaced the spark plugs, but now the truck won’t start.” Without missing a beat, Dad says “You connected the wires in the wrong order. They have to be connected a certain way, based on the firing order of the engine. Look it up.”

Alrighty.

So we look it up. And we find that yes, indeed, there is a firing order. And yes, indeed, we connected them incorrectly. We finally get them connected in the right order, everything put back together.

And it worked!

I had a lot of fun helping Nate with the truck, laughing at all of our silly mistakes.

Sunday Afternoon

Things to Do With Your Husband #1: Bake Bread

He can knead (read: play with) the dough while you ready the pans.

You can play a game or have a nice long talk while you wait an hour for the dough to rise.

Once the bread is baked, you can have even more fun eating it for supper in a last-ditch effort to put off grocery shopping just one more day. (In my defense, the store is much less crowded on a Monday than a Sunday…)

I love to have my husband in the kitchen with me.  Cooking is a great way to spend time together.

What is something you like to do with your spouse?